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Identity Crisis - It's a real thing. Get support!

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So, you’re making all the changes so far. You’re shedding the old, and looking forward to the ‘new.’ You’re at this in-between stage. You haven’t quite made all the changes, but you haven’t quite reached where you’re going. You are no longer the ‘old’ you, so who are you? Where are you at?
Well, you’re in transition – it can be an amazing place, or a scary place. The options are endless where you can go from here. Or, there’s always the fear of falling back into old habits. So, who are you now?

- Partner
- Daughter
- Sister
- Teacher
- Leader
- Mentor

Have you ever had an identity crisis? Like, who are you even? (Whoa, so deep). All of these things that we align with change with the seasons.

I’m going to let you in on a little secret....

I used to be a cheerleader. Yup, you read that right. Like pom poms, teased hair, half tops, plastered smiles and all. And, I was professional... like top of the top kind in the country. Hilarious, right ?!

Can you see it? I can’t even remember it. Other than the amazing women I met doing it, it’s just not me anymore. Hell, I don’t even know if that was me when I was IN it.

I bet you can’t see this ‘chill’, calm, go-with-the-flow yogi standing on a football field flailing my ‘poms’ encouraging a team and a crowd by shouting ‘Defense!’ I’m actually giggling now thinking about it.

When I stopped cheering, I was lost. I had NO idea how to identify myself. For years I had been a ‘dancer,’ then ‘cheerleader.’ It’s how I got introduced to people.

“This is Martina, she is a cheerleader.”

Then I stopped. But, how was I to be introduced when I retired? I had nothing to BE. It’s who I was for sooo many years.

I see this a lot with clients when life happens. Athletes move on from their careers. Partners become parents (mother/father). Couples become single. Family members are lost. The hot girl gets ‘fat.’ And so on, and so on.

So, if you think about who you were and who you are moving towards, how do you identify yourself now? Are you ready to let go of that hold on your role? How are you introduced? How are you showing up today?

We’ve all had this identity crisis. It’s part of transitions and life. If you’re in one of those places, and need support. Reach out, connect, and let’s get you through that transition in a mindful, sustainable way. Let’s make this your best life ever!

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